Konke oku kwaqalwa yinkwenkwe yaseTanzania, eAfrika, eyakhuthazwa yikomityi yobisi. Okulandelayo libali endilibaliselwe ngulaa nkwenkwana ngoku eyaziwa ngokuba ngubawo uStephen Mosha: "Iglasi yobisi eyaphula imithetho yesiNtu yaphefumlela intliziyo yam kwaye yadala intanda-bulumko nothando lwam ukunceda abanye. Kwinkcubeko yam kukho umthetho othi ithetha ngolu hlobo: 'Inkomo yeyomntu, kodwa ubisi lomfazi.' Ngokwalo mthetho ngumfazi osengayo, alawule ubisi, ngoko ke, ukuba indoda ifuna ubisi, kufuneka ilufune emfazini wayo. avuthulule agalele amasi kuye okanye agalele omnye umntu oku kufana nokuthuka umfazi wakhe kwaye akayohlwaywa.

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Ngenye imini umama wayesike ingca yemfuyo yethu utata esekhaya. Kwangena ummelwane wacela kutata iglasi yobisi yena nomntwana wakhe ongaphilanga. Ndiyakholwa, umntwana akazange atye nantoni na ngobusuku obudlulileyo okanye ngaloo ntsasa. Ngokwemithetho yenkcubeko, utata wayenokukhetha ezimbini: enye, xelela umfazi ukuba alinde umama ukuba abuye aze amnike ubisi. Okanye, thumela ukuba kubizwe umama ukuba aze kumnika ubisi. Kodwa ndothuka ndabizwa ngutata esithi mandimnike iglass. Washukumisa unogada, wagalela ubisi waza wanika lo mfazi. Yabona utata wophule imithetho yenkcubeko wandishiya ndothukile ndizibuza ukuba xa kubuya umama kuzokwenzeka ntoni!

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Kodwa kwakungaphelelanga apho. Lo mmelwane ebengavisisani nentsapho yakowethu. Benza izinto ezimbi kakhulu kusapho lwam nakutata ingakumbi. Ngoko ke ngokobuntu bendilindele ukuba utata athathe elithuba angavumi ukundinceda, okanye athathe isizathu senkcubeko alinde ukubuya kukamama okanye athumele ukuba abizwe. Ukuthwesa yonke into, ngelixesha utata wayegalela ubisi wathi kuthi bantwana bakhe, 'Ningaludinga olu bisi, kodwa lo mfazi ulifuna ngaphezu kwenu. Ungahlala ulambile.' Emva koko wanikela ngento ebesiya kuyithatha. Emva kokuba eli bhinqa limkile, utata wathi kuthi, ‘Xa kukho umntu osweleyo, nifanele nisoloko ninceda, nokuba lutshaba lwenu. Loo glasi yobisi eyanikwa lo mfazi wayeswele yophula imithetho yesiko yaza yabuphefumlela ubomi bam.”

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Njengoko ukuzinikela kwakhe kubantu bakhe kwakhula ukholo lwakhe lwakhula waza waqalisa umsebenzi wobufundisi. Wafika eMelika ngo-2004 efuna uncedo lokwakha ikliniki emva eMkuranga (eTanzania). Wajoyina irhamente eyayikhonza uluntu lwaseOssining. Ngelo xesha, ndandilawula indawo yokutyela efanelekileyo eManhattan apho umnini-Chef u-Ian wacela ubugcisa bam kwiindonga zakhe. Ngenye imini indoda egama linguJoe "Giuseppe" Provenzano (umyili wezakhiwo) yayisitya kwindawo yokutyela kwaye yabuza umncedisi malunga nomzobi owenza umsebenzi oboniswe kwiindonga. Iweyitala  wandikhapha ndayofika etafileni ndazazisa. Salungiselela intlanganiso kwiofisi yakowabo. Ukufika kwam ndabona incwadi phezu kwetafile yakhe endayibona kwiiveki ezidlulileyo kwivenkile ethengisa iincwadi. Ndayikhankanya kwaye wabuya esithi "Ewe, umsebenzi wam ukuloo ncwadi," ebonakala ngathi yinto engaqhelekanga. Ngenye imini wanditsalela umnxeba waza wandicela ukuba ndimkhaphe ukuya kwintlanganiso eOssining, NY. Xa ndabuza ukuba yiyiphi indima endiza kuba nayo ezintlanganisweni, wasuka waphendula wathi “Andiqinisekanga, ndivakalelwa kukuba kufuneka ube lapho.”

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Wandikhwelisa uJoe sahamba saya eOssining, apho ndadibana noTata uStephen Mosha okokuqala. Siye sahlala sancokola kumnandi kuphunga iti kwigumbi lokutyela. Kuthe kusenjalo ndamamela kuthethwana de utata uMosha wathi ufuna iziko lezempilo apha ekhaya ukuze ancede abantu bakowabo. Bendiwaqhelile amanyathelo okuqala ongenzi nzuzo kwaye ndiwachaze. Ubawo uMosha uye wabuza ukuba singamncedisa na ekuphumezeni le njongo. Ndothuka ndaza ndabuza “Ungathanda  ukuba ndenze ntoni kwakhona?” Ndiyathandabuza ngokumangala, andizange ndicelwe ukuba ndincede kumnqweno omkhulu kangaka. Kodwa, ndenza isithembiso sokumnceda. Isithembiso sam kuye ndandisenza ukusuka komnye umntu ukuya komnye, kungekhona ngenxa yokuba wayenxibe ikhola yobufundisi. Sithe sisaqhuba nencoko yethu, ndawuva umoya wakhe othambileyo kunye nendalo ethobekileyo. Ndandibuva ubuntu bakhe kunye nemfuneko yokuba kwenzeke oku. Isizathu sokuba ndibe lapho sasicacile.

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Kwisithuba esingangonyaka emva kokudibana kwethu, uJoe walishiya eli lizwe ngokusisigxina esiya kufuna umsebenzi  umsebenzi wakhe obalaseleyo. Kwiminyaka nje embalwa, safumana iihektare ezimbalwa zomhlaba ngaphandle nangaphandle kurhulumente nakuyo nayiphi na icawa. Mna noJoe sagqiba kwelokuba simncedise ekumnikeni ilali endaweni yokumnika ikliniki kuphela ekubeni sisikelelwe ngobukhulu bomhlaba. Andizange ndicinge ukuba xa ndiqala ukwenza esi sithembiso ukuba kuya kuvela ukukhula kwesi sikhundla. Kwafuneka ndize nesicwangciso kwaye ndazifundisa kwiindawo ezahlukeneyo zophuhliso, kodwa andizange ndiyazi nayiphi na ingcali okanye  abantu abanokuthi bancede ngeli xesha. Ndicele ihlabathi ukuba lindikhokele kwaye lindazise kwabo babeza kuba yinxalenye yolu hambo ukunceda ukutshintsha ubomi bamawaka azayo.

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Ixesha kunye nomonde undikhokelele kwaba bantu babalaseleyo ngoku bayinxalenye yeqela elimangalisayo elinike ixesha labo, ubuchule, iintliziyo, ukuzinikela, kunye nothando kwisizathu esikhulu kunesabo. Kukangaphi umntu enokuthi bayinxalenye yeprojekthi yokuguqula ubomi eya kusindisa ubomi obuninzi. Ngoku unethuba lokuba yinxalenye yombutho omkhulu wokunceda ubomi babo bangenandlela okanye abangenakuzinceda.

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Luxanduva lwethu njengabantu ukolula isandla sokunceda xa sinako kwaye sikhumbuza abanye ngamandla oKHOLO, ITHEMBA, NOTHANDO.